What to Wear to Meet the Parents
So you are meeting his parents for the first time. It’s fall and you are wondering what to wear to make the right impression. The first impression is the most important. Whether or not we like it, humans judge one another within the first 20 seconds of meeting one another. So I thought I would put together some outfit ideas and tips for what to wear to dinner with the boyfriend’s family.
1. Leave the labels At Home
First impressions are the MOST important and the first thing your significant other’s family is going to see of you is your outfit. Therefore, it is vital that you put your best foot forward and take a few styling tips to good use. You do not want your expensive taste to be the first thing they notice about you. Tone it down and leave the labels, platform stilettos, sexy lipstick and heavy makeup at home. Think of it this way, if you wouldn’t wear it to church, don’t wear it to meet the parents.
2. Wear something comfortable
Be appropriate. I should not have to tell you to NOT wear anything too short, revealing or uncomfortable that you’re fighting with it all throughout the evening. Opt for more ladylike styles: midi dresses, pleated skirts and belted dresses. Would you believe me if I told you this entire outfit is from Target?!
Here are a few more tips to help you make the right impression…
1. User your manners
All those manners your parents forced you to use as a child? Now is the time to use them including chew with your mouth closed and keep your elbows off the table. Ask any topics you should avoid- naturally, politics and religion should always be avoided at any holiday gathering.
2. Know their names
I try to know everyone’s name a little bit about them before I arrive. That way I have a little background story on everyone and it helps me to remember them and bring up topics for conversation.
3. Offer to help:
Doing the dishes, setting up, pouring drinks. You are their guest, and they will probably say no, but it’s a thoughtful gesture on your part. Plus it gives you something to do when you might otherwise be standing there doing nothing.
2. Bring a gift…
Even if they say bring nothing, it is always good practice to show up with a little something. Plus, it can be a great conversation starter. Ask your significant other what his/her parents appreciate. Here is a post I wrote last year on thoughtful and practical gifts to bring. Candles are always acceptable, something you made yourself or picked up from a local bakery. Flowers (make sure no one is allergic.) Or a fun game to play for after dinner (apples to apples, a nice deck of cards, etc.)
5. Watch what you say. …
I always like to think of my boyfriend’s mother like his mother. Not my friend, not a new girlfriend. There is a line of respect there. Topics you should avoid- naturally, politics and religion should be avoided at any holiday gathering.
6. Write a thoughtful thank you note
Handwritten notes can go a long way and leave a positive lasting impression. Pull out that stationary and practice your best handwriting!
What are you thoughts on what to wear to meet the parents? Do you think you should keep it casual or dress things up? Share in a comment below!
Best of luck and remember to have fun and go with the flow!
xoxo,
Laura
Shop My Look:
Target top (also comes in black)// Target tank // Target pleated skirt // H&M fedora (old) // Sevrene bag // Sam Edelman boots // Target belt // ASTRD x MelRodStyle sunglasses // gold chain unknown // Chanel brooches (leave these at home when meeting the family!) //
