To Be Sexy, Or Not To Be?

Location: Los Angeles

To be sexy or not to be? That is the question…

I’m currently in between a rock and a hard place. You may have noticed that my style has evolved to be a bit more sexy with more form fitting silhouettes,  lower necklines and thigh-high slits. Of course, I still love a feminine dress and a floral pant suite every now and then. But I am 28, single and have been working my butt off at the gym to get that sexy body I’ve always wanted. So you better believe I’m not going to by shy about showing it off!

I was explaining my little dilemma to a friend of mine who told she missed my girlish days.  She mentioned that I may have “shocked my readers” with a sudden turn to more revealing looks.  Did I shock you all?  I figured a summer’s worth of bikini pics last year would have warmed people up to the idea that I was wanting to push the boundaries a bit. And after the positive reaction on my first lingerie post and this dress on Instagram I figured I could push things a little further.

A influencer agency representative the other day said “if a blogger posts sexy pictures we will not work with them.” Okay, I can understand that everything has to be taken within reason. But look at celebrities, for example, they shoot sexy photos all the time! Would you look at Margot Robbie any differently because on one magazine cover she’s smiling and the next cover she’s sultry as hell?! That’s right, you wouldn’t. Many women would still want to be her.  Newsflash, sex sells.  Not everyone is brave enough to use it to their advantage. Those that do end up standing out from the others.

Another friend of mine told me I reminded her of Marilyn Monroe. Now that’s a compliment! We discussed how Marilyn was sexy, playful, girlish and approachable. Men wanted to meet her and women wanted to be her.  So that’s the mentality I’ll have about this dilemma of to be sexy or not to be. It’s not in my nature to be sexy all the time. Oh no no no, that’s just overkill to me. I’m going to be a modern day Marilyn.

I am still figuring out my limits on the amount of sexiness I am willing to put out there. I’ll admit that the day I posted my first full lingerie shoot I was a bit uncomfortable. But when I look back now I am really glad I did share because I love what Brittney and I created for that campaign.  Those photos are beautiful and artistic and I would do it again in a heart beat! Now I may have lost some followers along the way, but I don’t want to stay in full skirts all the time just to please some people. Other people love my edgier side. But I’m not dressing the way I do to please anyone. I dress the way I dress because it makes me feel good. And may catch the eye of a cute guy across the room every now and then 😉

I’m learning to embrace my flaws, love my body, and push the style boundaries. And with that comes a style evolution that I’m proud of. Sure I may post photos in my underwear every now and then. But everyone wears it, so don’t act like you haven’t seen it before. Some people just make it look more fun than others.

Love me, love me not. Either way, I hope I inspire you to push your own comfort boundaries and be proud of who you are. No matter who that may be.

xoxo,
Laura

P.S. If you want to see a little style evolution flashback from over the years, check out this post.

Photos by Brittney Christie

Shop My Look:

Jacket: Charlotte Russe | top + skirt: Express | bra: Adore Me | heels: Kendall and Kylie | sunglasses: Aldo Shoes